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Ok...in relation to the topic....who would you choose? Your ex-bf or ex-husband whom had been unfaithful to you but promised to change and he did prove to you that he is a changed man? Or the your new admirer whom is very dedicated to you? Seems like an easy choice isn't it? I guess that most people would definitely choose the new admirer since he is very dedicated and who is to say that the ex would not make the same mistakes again?
But then if you think carefully, what about the memories that you have with your ex? What about all the things that you shared? The things that he had done for you? The very thing that made you fell in love with him....Would you be touched and forgive him for his mistakes?
On the other hand, here is a brand new admirer that is very dedicated and has not yet (I will say not yet but then again he might never be unfaithful) been unfaithful to you? Are you ready to let go of your past and accept him? Are you strong enough to let go? Because if you are not, then you are not being fair to him, right?
Ok, here is my answer....I will choose to start my life all over and give it a shot with the new guy.....Here is my reasoning.....first of all, there is a chinese proverb that goes something like this 'A good horse will not eat the grass on the path that he has already travlled'....meaning that one should not go back....should not turn back to the path that they have already been on.....and understand the basic rule of man....if there is a first...then definitely there will be a second time and if there is a second time......there will be a third time.....If he really love you in the first place, then he wont be unfaithful in the first place right?
This scenario had happened to me about 5 years ago......and my choice is what I had written in the above paragraph.....and I am confident that I have made the right choice.....I am still with the same guy that I chose 5 years ago.....
When I met him...the new admirer......he did not actually fell in love with me at the first sight...it took us a couple of months to get to like each other and there is no intense courtship or anything like that.......we were together very naturally......there were many things that he did for me that I will never forget.....he was there for me when I was at my weakest........
He wipe my tears when I cry...saying that how he wished that I was his gf so that I will never be sad and that he wont ever have to see me cry........he spoil me rotten too....as I haven't got my license at that time.....he drove me anywhere I wanted to go.......even if me walking is much faster than him actually driving me there......and his class wont be starting till 10am and he woke up especially to at 8am to bring me to campus....Sweet isnt he?
Then there was the way that he likes to smell me.....especially while he thinks I was sleeping and isn't aware that he is smelling me....he says that I am very fragrant....even though I am pretty sure that I am sweating like a pig....hehe......
There was another time that he came down from Bandar (he just gotten his license not too long ago and he doesn't know where my house was) and he manage to find his way to my house to be with me for 1 hour then he drive up to Bandar again since he did not let his mom know that he drive so far.....he claimed that he smelled his way to me....that is how he manage to find my house....
He told me that he thinks of me every nite.....even though he tried not to......but he seems to be unable to think of anyone else but me.....
Life isn't always sweet and easy going for the both of us....we went through a lot in these 5 years of our relationship......but I am happy to say that we are still going strong after more than 5 years together.....
So it's not always a bad thing to start all over.....try to let go of the past......it will give you freedom.......
Now that is my feelings on whether to accept a new love entirely or whether to accept the apologies of an ex and get back with him (no matter how much he begs)
Last but not least......here's me.....with my adorable 'Baby Hudu'
Ok...in relation to the topic....who would you choose? Your ex-bf or ex-husband whom had been unfaithful to you but promised to change and he did prove to you that he is a changed man? Or the your new admirer whom is very dedicated to you? Seems like an easy choice isn't it? I guess that most people would definitely choose the new admirer since he is very dedicated and who is to say that the ex would not make the same mistakes again?
But then if you think carefully, what about the memories that you have with your ex? What about all the things that you shared? The things that he had done for you? The very thing that made you fell in love with him....Would you be touched and forgive him for his mistakes?
On the other hand, here is a brand new admirer that is very dedicated and has not yet (I will say not yet but then again he might never be unfaithful) been unfaithful to you? Are you ready to let go of your past and accept him? Are you strong enough to let go? Because if you are not, then you are not being fair to him, right?
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Ok, here is my answer....I will choose to start my life all over and give it a shot with the new guy.....Here is my reasoning.....first of all, there is a chinese proverb that goes something like this 'A good horse will not eat the grass on the path that he has already travlled'....meaning that one should not go back....should not turn back to the path that they have already been on.....and understand the basic rule of man....if there is a first...then definitely there will be a second time and if there is a second time......there will be a third time.....If he really love you in the first place, then he wont be unfaithful in the first place right?
This scenario had happened to me about 5 years ago......and my choice is what I had written in the above paragraph.....and I am confident that I have made the right choice.....I am still with the same guy that I chose 5 years ago.....
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When I met him...the new admirer......he did not actually fell in love with me at the first sight...it took us a couple of months to get to like each other and there is no intense courtship or anything like that.......we were together very naturally......there were many things that he did for me that I will never forget.....he was there for me when I was at my weakest........
He wipe my tears when I cry...saying that how he wished that I was his gf so that I will never be sad and that he wont ever have to see me cry........he spoil me rotten too....as I haven't got my license at that time.....he drove me anywhere I wanted to go.......even if me walking is much faster than him actually driving me there......and his class wont be starting till 10am and he woke up especially to at 8am to bring me to campus....Sweet isnt he?
Then there was the way that he likes to smell me.....especially while he thinks I was sleeping and isn't aware that he is smelling me....he says that I am very fragrant....even though I am pretty sure that I am sweating like a pig....hehe......
There was another time that he came down from Bandar (he just gotten his license not too long ago and he doesn't know where my house was) and he manage to find his way to my house to be with me for 1 hour then he drive up to Bandar again since he did not let his mom know that he drive so far.....he claimed that he smelled his way to me....that is how he manage to find my house....
He told me that he thinks of me every nite.....even though he tried not to......but he seems to be unable to think of anyone else but me.....
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Life isn't always sweet and easy going for the both of us....we went through a lot in these 5 years of our relationship......but I am happy to say that we are still going strong after more than 5 years together.....
So it's not always a bad thing to start all over.....try to let go of the past......it will give you freedom.......
~~~~~~~~~~
Now that is my feelings on whether to accept a new love entirely or whether to accept the apologies of an ex and get back with him (no matter how much he begs)
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Last but not least......here's me.....with my adorable 'Baby Hudu'
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