I feel very disgusted. Extremely so.
You see I had (yes past tense) a good friend, someone whom I had known since young. Lets call the person S. S borrowed money from me a couple of years ago. S was in a horrible financial mess. S's was gonna be repossessed by the bank and needed some cash to tie her over. So yeah I landed her a little bit of money and till this day I have never asked for the money back as S always claimed she is still in a financial mess but its getting better. S claimed that she will pay me back as soon as possible. I was fine with that as its not as if I needed that money badly.
But whenever I open my IG or FB, I would see her enjoying a night out. Eating at places where I will only go once in a while. In addition to that, S also went for an overseas holiday. Not once but twice or issit more than that? (Cant rem) Albeit it was to some country nearby but still an overseas trip would involve some money right?
Not only that I see S driving a new car and yeah again its not an expensive car but still it would definitel involve more than what she owed me.
Then I see S buying a new branded bag, not a very expensive brand but nevertheless, a branded bag.
I still kept quiet believing that S will pay me soon.
Then the next thing I knew, S bought an expensive phone. Kinda like the latest phone around.
If you were me, what would you have felt?
So I confronted her. I told S that she had justifications for everything that she had spent. If she has that much money she should have paid me what she owed me first. Then she had the audacity to tell me that she was planning to pay me this month end, AFTER I mentioned that she should have paid me first.
That was the first thing that pissed me off. Ohh....now you wanna pay me after I say so many things? But you acted like you wanted to pay me back in the first place.
Second thing, I told her that she has justifications on everything that she spent. First on her car, she already has a car but yet spent money yet again to loan another car.
Then the branded bag, its to reward herself for being good in able to clear AMOST all her debts! Meaning still owe banks and people money le.
Then buy an expensive phone coz her current phone is unstable. I had to admit that a phone these days are a necessity but then do you need to buy the latest phone? And need to borrow money from her mother to buy some more.
When I told S all of the above, she sounds offended saying no point in talking to me if I say that she has justifications in everything.
At that point, I just gave up all hope of ever trying to get into that thick skull of hers and am utterly disappointed in her. I just told her that she has to pay me back month end. Seriously, I do not care how she will come up with the money, Since she has the money to spend, I'm sure she will find it somehow to pay me back.
She then replied me asking me for my account number, no decency to even pass me back the money in person. And she treated me like a stranger! I cared about her as a friend thats why I even bothered to advice her now and then. Thats the second most maddening thing!!!!!
I guess I should not feel any heart pain in having one less friend such as S. Someone who says one thing and does another. Ok I have let it all out and now I feel better!
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