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I am supposed to be studying...taking a quick break to blog about what is on my mind now.

Since I am studying, I will normally take quick breaks surfing fb.

I came across a number of things lately. I found out that I have this friend (whom I am not very close and is more than a decade older than I am) is recently divorced. She has been married for 20 odd years. It saddens one to see such a long marriage break down and results in a divorce.

Then I saw another friend who just ROMed a few days ago (and again a friend whom I am not very close to)

So a thought crossed my little mind.

There are a lot of couples who rushed into marriage. These are the couples who will have the toughest time coz they have to adjust to marriage life and its not all that sweet. Marriage is a full time job where you have to constantly work at it so that the marriage will be successful.

Marriage is not all about those big wedding dinner, gorgeous photo shoots, flowers and whatnot. Its about a union between 2 families. YES! 2 families, the bride and the bridegroom are not the only ones uniting in this marriage. You have to bring together 2 family values that may or may not be very different.

There are many aspects to consider.

For me (I think coz I am not married yet), I think that its important not to lose your own identity even after you married. Its easy to revolve your life around your new husband and family and what if (and that is a very big what if), this husband of yours decide that he wanna leave this family that you two have created together? What will happen to me then?

Anything could happen and we have to be prepared for it. We are now woman of the new era. We should be financially independent. We should have lives too, outside of the marriage. We are still human too so we need human contact other than our husbands and children.

I have some other friends who have totally lost their trust in marriages. I think that they must have it very bad in order to lost that trust in other people. I think its sad. But they have to slowly regain their trust in the opposite sex and its not a process that can be rushed.

Ba, I blabbed enough....back to my studies. YAWN!
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Josephine said…
I agree with some of your thoughts here. But in Muslim faith, the wife must give up all that she has before & revolve around her husband & family after marriage. Of course she can still have her own friends but if her hubby doesn't allow her to go out or do other stuff than to look after the family, she must oblige. What do you think? I think this rule is totally NOT GOOD! I vote to rule it out.
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