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Extended Families

I have a huge family base since my mom has 11 other siblings. So conflict are kinda hard to avoid at times. So the comments that I have are those regarding my extended family. Some people are very hard to stand.

I have this relative that loves to say terrible things. Worse, she will only talk behind your back. She laughs at you when you are worse off than she is. She will make sarcastic comments if you are better off than she is and she will say that it's luck that you are better off....its never due to hard work and determination. She is really annoying as she likes to look down on her own extended family just because they might not be as well off as she is. Very Chek Ak (wicked) you know. Bad karma!

Then I have another cuz (same age as I am) who told her then housemate that I was a SLUT! How I found out about this? Easy, that particular housemate had worked for my parents for a short period of time, she told my mom about this. (Imagine hearing from your mom that someone says that you are a slut!!!!) Luckily, my mom trust me on this. Anyway, my current relationship has been going strong for the last 6 years and I have been faithful all these while, so how does this makes me a SLUT?? Well......not as a retaliation but I guess that she is the one who is a slut. Coz she makes use of guys to get what she wants and then dump them when they are no longer useful. (Brunei is very small. If you are on the right channel, there are many 'valuable' info that you sink your teeth in) She was even into INCEST. Incest is a sexual relationship between closely related people. She was involved in a incestuous relationship with her first cuz brother (with the same surname, which means that their fathers are brothers!!!!) See how colourful her past is? But knowing all these, I din rat out on her (Coz the way I see it, is that this is no business of mine . So I DID NOT tell their respective parents.) She has always been like that since we are young. Even as kids, she likes to taunt me. Being the good little girl (haha, more like cowardly little gal that I was) I just kept quiet. We are grown up now. But the rift will always be there. I still have no idea why would she tell people (yes, people!) that I'm a slut. Bad Karma!

There is another cuz (younger than I am) who likes to tell his parents lies to get what he wants. Knowing fully that his parents have more than they can handle at the moment. This cuz brother likes to compare things are well.....especially with my siblings. He likes to think that people are looking down on them (the same does for his bro n sis as well). Well, we don't. As long as the things that you do are the right things, who would dare to look down on you.

Those above mentioned people are on my hate list in descending order.

My mami knows that I dun like these particular extended families. She advise me to just ignore them. I am doing just that. But somehow, I feel like a hypocrite. But I am not gonna create havoc on my extended families as long as they stay clear of my and my family. If not, they are in for some whacking!!!! Hehehe.....Bi wont you lend me a hand (or both hands)?

PS: Not all extended families are bad. I have some pretty good and kind relatives and cuzzies. I love you all.

PSS: To the cuz who called me a slut, I have evidence (let's just say picture clear evidence) of your incestuous relationship. Loads of pictures. Hahaha!!!! (Am I being mean? Well, who cares........muha muha)

There, I have let it all out. This has been eating away me on the inside. I am an out spoken girl and I wont be supressed in anyway. (Face has been given to my parents since I did not mention any names nor any references have been made)

Comments

Anonymous said…
Oh geee... sorry to hear about your "bizarre" extended families.

Your mum's quite right. It is best to ignore them and focus on the good things in life. Life is too short to waste our time and emotions on these kind of insults and strife from others.

It doesn't serve any purpose by retaliating either.

Enjoy your loved ones! God will richly bless in return.
Anonymous said…
You do realise that by airing our your family's dirty laundry albeit extended also reflects on you and your family.

If you're all grown up as you have claimed to be, then why is there a need to vent in a very child-like manner to the point of threatening someone?

You know, they say if you point a finger at someone, there are three fingers pointing back at you.

Try it.
Artowawa said…
Bi, we are not related by blood le. Just by marriage le. Not a drop of common blood in both of us....haha....

Erm....ya....I know how this reflects on me. Haha....how well dun I know it? No threats are intended. Oh yeah, this is no dirty linens that I'm airing, just facts. Does anyone in my family (extended or immediate) challenge me as to those facts?

I dun claim to be grown up.(I was referring to my age le. not that I'm that old ho.)

The same goes for pointing. I'm not pointing finger. I'm pointing all my 5 fingers to them. Hahaha!!!!

Who is scared now? You or me? Anonymous.........

Yeap.....I'm focusing on the good things in my life right now. Thanks. But I'm not retaliating. When I put their names in here, where everyone can read it is call retaliation.

Who knows? I might regret this at some time of my life. But then again life is too short for regrets isn't it?
Anonymous said…
Scared? me? Over what?

So if you don't claim to be 'grown up' you are agreeing that you are still child like.

By definition, 'to retaliate' means to return evil with evil.

Since actions reflects the character, therefore you are implying you are 'evil'? Meaning that you are no better than the other person. Because evil is evil. agree?

Come now, I think you are better than that?

You sound like a smart girl. You shouldn't stoop this low to hurt a cousin or a family member who may or may not even be reading your blog.

The fact that you are so determine to 'retaliate' i.e to act evil upon said cousin, he/she must have certain quality that you are envious of. Hence in order to destroy said quality, you must make your self seem (relatively)better.

But like i said before, you are a smart girl. Put them brain cells into better use. Anger will eventually eat you up inside and will reflect upon your pretty face.

And I am quite sure you believe in 'karma' too. Who knows, you might have angered your God for being overly-confident in criticizing your relatives. He might put a bit of bad luck or drama in your life. Who knows. God works in mysterious ways. I do know that He serve justice to all.

You may not regret this now, but maybe your children will suffer the consequences of your actions. Or maybe when you're about to get married, alot of bad things will happen and only then you will remember 'crap. that stupid post where i didn't engage my brain.'

Ask yourself, what have you achieve by shaming your own family?

Have a thought on that.
asthmaking said…
uhh...when u point at someone , ur 3 fingers are not pointing at u in case u din notice...unless ur hand is different from mine..the 3 finger are pointing upwards .
Anonymous said…
Kenny, you are too smart. Really.
asthmaking said…
ok la...dun have to be a genius to realise that. im not smart also..just
maybe ur dumb onli

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